If you experience mild anxiety from time to time, here’s a quick way you can calm it down.
Have you ever experienced this?
You see, hear or read something that causes you to think you’ve done something wrong or foolish?
You get this tight feeling in your chest, a feeling of anxiety.
You feel very insecure. You wonder what others think about you.
You expect they’re judging you harshly.
A voice in your head is saying “what have I done?!”
Not only do you fear the judgment that others are placing on you, but you also fear that it will stick forever.
It’s an uncomfortable place to be in – not being able to control what others think about you.
So then you judge yourself harshly, maybe unconsciously as a way to try and lessen others’ judgments of you.
As if to somehow say “it’s okay, you don’t have to judge me – it’s taken care of – I’m already doing enough of that myself.”
We’ve all been there.
This is what I hope you will do the next time anxiety hits you:
Say to yourself: “We’ve all been here.”
Immediately, this will help you to feel less alone and anxious.
One of the reasons you feel so anxious in the first place is because in your mind, you think you’ve been singled out for not being good enough.
This is a very isolating thought – one that every person has had before.
It can then bring about a whole cascade of fearful thoughts to reinforce why you’re not good enough.
Your brain has evolved to care about what others think about you. It’s a very human experience.
Once you bring your awareness to this, it’s easier to calm the anxiety down.
Anxiety’s role in determining your limiting beliefs
Though painful, these feelings of anxiety can be a great clue into what your limiting beliefs are.
I encourage you to learn more about what these limiting beliefs are; because when you figure them out – your anxiety will come up less often than it used to.
Wouldn’t that be great?
The first step of course, is realizing that the limiting beliefs are there in the first place.
So here’s another tip:
Assume that your feeling of anxiety is a sign that a limiting belief exists.
Remind yourself that it’s your thoughts about your situation that’s causing the anxiety, and open up to the possibility that the thoughts might not even be true.
And again, say to yourself “we’ve all been here.”
A compassionate way to explore your limiting beliefs
The job of exploring your limiting beliefs isn’t easy.
You might not know where to start, and it could mean re-visiting difficult memories of the past.
This is why I encourage you to do this with a supportive counselor, coach or therapist who you trust.
You’ll do well and move past your challenges more quickly when you also practice self-compassion.
The reason why it’s so helpful to practice self-compassion is because your negative anxiety-producing self-talk warrants it.
We already talked about one way to practice self-compassion: tell yourself “we’ve all been here” when anxious feelings come up. It will also help to direct feelings of care towards yourself as you do so.
Then take it a step further:
Imagine yourself growing and stretching beyond your limiting beliefs as you compassionately acknowledge and admit to them.
What stops a lot of people from beginning this deep work in the first place, is a feeling of permanency around their ‘negative’ ways of thinking.
And if you reach out for support, what if the person you go to for help judges you as someone having ‘unattractive’ thoughts and continues to for the rest of their lives?
Have no fear: your compassionate acknowledgment of what’s going on for you is a sign of transformation already in progress.
You are already different.
It’s already happening, the transformation.
You’re not the same person as you were a moment ago.
You’re growing and stretching into the next best version of yourself.
So you can just let your anxiety-producing judgments fall away.
And with the right counselor or coach who can hold space for you in this way, you’ll realize that their judgments of you have already fallen away (or weren’t there in the first place like you thought).
Nature, by the way, is always teaching and supporting us in non-judgemental ways.
Many people forget to that they can go to nature for support.
To remind people, I like to include Nature Metaphors and Corresponding Mindset & Habit Shifts in my posts.
This Post’s Nature Metaphor Is Brought To You By:
The Clouds In The Sky
Have you ever watched clouds floating in the sky?
You look up and see magical things in the sky: ‘Hey, it’s an alligator!” but then just a few moments later, that alligator turns into a popcorn kernel.
That’s the nature of clouds.
They are always transforming…even as you are in the middle of trying to label their shapes, they turn into something new and different.
This Post’s Corresponding Mindset & Habit Shift:
If you notice yourself feeling anxious, pay attention to the thoughts causing the anxiety as if they were clouds floating in your mind.
Give compassion to your thoughts. Acknowledge them with curiosity, but don’t hold onto them.
Realize that your thoughts about yourself and what others think of you, will transform as you compassionately acknowledge and work through them.
Everything is constantly changing and growing into something new – let this inspire you to begin the journey of letting go of your old beliefs so you can become who you need to be to reach your true potential.
Again, reach out to a trusted counselor, coach or therapist who can help you work through your limiting beliefs.
And of course, your compassionate and non-judgemental nature allies can also deeply support you.
To show you how, I created a 7 Day Nature Connection Challenge. This challenge deeply connects you with your nature allies in ways you probably never thought to before – so you can move forward reaching your true potential in the most balanced and loving way.
You can opt-in to participate in the challenge here: pathclearingprocess.com/7-days
Lea Tran is a holistic healer and mindset coach who calls upon the nature allies of women to help them take action toward their true purpose. She is a Plant Spirit Medicine healer and creator of The Path Clearing Process, a 90-Day Life Purpose Re-alignment Program using nature’s support to ensure you are always moving forward reaching your true potential in the most balanced and fulfilling way. She lives in Guelph, Ontario.